Lovers’ Farewell

“Leaning toward the river” photographed by Sandy Ross Bender at Washington Crossing State Park, Pennsylvania on November 15, 2025.
Lovers’ Farewell” music composed, arranged,* and performed with vocals, guitar, and concertina by Sandy Ross Bender on November 15, 2025.

My lover did come ere evensong,

And he give me farewell,

But the wars that took him to the Low Country

He never a war did tell,

But the wars that took him to the Low Country

He never a war did tell.

Oh, he did go to the bloody wars,

His lance and his shield a-glisten,

While his lady did weep in her bowing-room,

And none was there to listen.

While his lady did weep in her bowing-room,

And none was there to listen.

Down fell he there, and there to die,

In the wet of the Low Country,

And no man knows that he lies there

But his horse and his hound and his lady Mary.

And no man knows that he lies there

But his horse and his hound and his lady Mary,

Oh, he may sleep in an open grave,

Where raven fly and flutter,

But I will wake on my pallet of grief,

And many a cry will utter.

But I will wake on my pallet of grief,

And many a cry will utter.

*Note: Ballad lyrics documented by John Jacob Niles (No. 17 A -traditional form of “The Three Ravens” (Francis James Child No. 26},

Soldier’s remorse

Coastal view from the Pemaquid Point Lighthouse, New Harbor, Maine photographed by Sanford Ross Bender in July 6, 2024.
“Soldier’s remorse” composed and performed with guitar, clarinet, and concertina by Sanford Ross Bender on August 10, 2024.

The Soldier and the Lady

“The Soldier and the Lady” arranged and sung by Sandy Ross Bender with guitar and concertina on May 25, 2023 and based on “The Soldier and his Lady” (Niles No. 65 B) from “The Ballad Book” compiled by John Jacob Niles in 1960.

A soldier come from Georgia way,

Of ridin’ he was weary.

He tingled on the side-door ring

To hearken up his lady.

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She’s took him by the bridle line,

She’s led him to the stable.

“Here’s oats, here’s corn, here’s hay for your horse,

Let him eat what he is able.”

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She’s took him by the lily-white hand,

She’s led him to the table.

“Here’s cakes and wine for you, my dear,

Come eat what you are able.”

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She’s went to smooth his downy bed,

And she smoothed it like a lady,

And off she took her red, red dress,

Said, “Dearie, are you ready?”

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Off come his bugle soldier’s coat,

Off come his boots of leather,

And quickly into bed he jumped,

And there they lay together.

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He held her high, he held her low,

For hours one, two. and three,

When the bugle blew, she did fear so much

Did sound forth cruelly.

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“When shall we meet and marry, dear,

If you cannot tarry?”

“When cockle-shells turn silver bells,

‘Tis then that we shall marry.”

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“The Sweep of the Bow’ drawn with pen and ink by Sandy Ross Bender